As a high value woman in her power, there’s nothing more frustrating than catching yourself in the act of people pleasing… aka self-abandonment.
It’s those sneaky moments when you’re on the spot and for example, even though you decided you weren’t drinking at dinner tonight, you didn’t know how to say no when the wine came around or felt awkward when friends wanted to carry on the night. It’s agreeing to go along with plans your partner wants when you know deep inside you want something else. It’s not speaking up and correcting someone when they’ve misunderstood you and instead you’re nod your head and going along, it’s making yourself wrong and taking the blame when it was actually nothing to do with you, it’s avoiding the awkward conversation or failing to call out a friend and say how you really feel that builds resentment and creates distance.
So often we’re acting out of habit… acting before our conscious mind has time to catch up. It’s that tightness in your chest, the freeze that sets in when you fear offending someone, or the automatic yes that slips out when you really mean no and we’re not even in our body.
Afterward, the frustration sets in and we either feel shame for not standing our ground, or directed it outward on someone or something else when we know deep down the responsibility lies with us.
As a recovering people-pleaser, I truly get it and I’ve been there.
The truth is, we often people-please because we’re afraid of losing love. It’s a survival mechanism we picked up in childhood, learning to abandon ourselves to keep others happy. But as empowered women, we know this pattern doesn’t serve us.
So, how do we break the habit?
Enter dark feminine energy. This is the aspect of the feminine that is unapologetic, powerful, and fiercely protective of her boundaries. She’s confident, holds herself to high standards, embodies high self-worth, and she’s not afraid to speak her truth, even when it’s uncomfortable. And let me tell you—it’s deeply magnetic.
Learning how to embodying my dark feminine energy has been key to healing my people-pleasing tendencies and becoming the confident high-value woman I always wanted to be – and not just LOOKING like from the outside, actually FEELING like her from the inside — not to mention with more ease, grace, and a whole lot of self-respect.
Understanding this is a MUST for ALL woman in my opinion which is why I recorded my latest podcast episode on Why embodying the divine aspects of your dark feminine energy is KEY to becoming a high value woman in the modern world
Ready to do the deeper healing work and fully embody your dark feminine? Join me for the next round of Cosmic Rose—a transformative 12 month feminine embodiment and facilitation created by my mentor Lauren Megan where you have access to me as a support coach and guide! If you’re ready to become deeply embodied in your feminine mastery and step into the highest, most elevated, and most confident version of yourself, Cosmic Rose may be the next right step for you.
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